In a society where childcare is placed mostly on mums, it makes it hard for both women and men to understand postpartum depression (or postpartum anxiety). It hasn’t been talked about very much and that’s why some mums didn’t even realize they were going through it after having a child.
This makes them feel like they have failed as a mother when they suddenly find that they don’t want to do anything with their baby. Some asked why don’t mothers talk about this but how can they? Many will berate the mum if she even shared her thoughts about this.
The Symptoms of Postpartum Depression
What most of us don’t realize is this is one of the symptoms of postpartum depression. Several signs of postpartum depression include:
- Great sadness which appears for no reason
- Change in appetite
- Constantly feeling tired or sleeping problems such as sleeping too much or not getting enough sleep
- Feeling worthless or excessively guilty about things you have done or not done (feeling like a bad mother, difficulty to build rapport with your baby)
- Feeling irritable and rejection of baby
- Extreme anxiety thus, incapacity to care for baby
- Lack of concentration
- Disinterest in any activities or not taking pleasure when doing activities
- Feeling things won’t get any better
A mum shared on Facebook that she felt like a terrible mother when she had the urge to abandon and reject the child. She didn’t know she was going through postpartum depression then so she kept quiet and forced a smile for cameras when pictures were taken with her kids.
She shared that she didn’t want to feed her kids or bathe them either. She just wanted to leave them in their cribs and disappear. Her husband didn’t know what she was going through because he was away for work most of the time. The mum felt so bad about herself that she cried and screamed almost daily.
However, when she couldn’t take it anymore she called her doctor’s office. After explaining what’s she was going through to the receptionist, she was told to come in immediately. Together with her doctor, she gradually got better.
Why Do Mums Get Postpartum Depression?
Postpartum depression happens due to hormonal changes. During pregnancy, a woman’s hormone levels will rise and when it suddenly tanks after giving birth, this quick change can trigger depression in some women.
Mothers who had depression before or it runs in the family are more likely to have postpartum depression. A stressful life can also be one of the aggravating factors. Very young mums who are not ready to care for a child may go through this stage as well.
What Can Mums Do About It?
For mums who find out they have postpartum depression or notice the signs in them, know that you’re not crazy and you need to tell someone so you don’t go through it alone. Also, try to seek professional help because they are better equipped to guide mothers who have gone through this too, just like the mum in Facebook did.
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