Even if we promised ourselves not to teach our kids to swear, they’ll still learn it some other way from friends, the television and yes, sometimes the parents themselves. Thus, it’s much more important to teach kids to be a nice and kind person.
There’s no way “No cursing” is going to work ever. It’s not only something that’s impossible to keep but it makes kids feel like a bad kid when they accidentally let slip. Rules like “This family don’t swear” will make kids feel inferior and feel like they don’t fit in with the family.
A mum shared on Facebook that she was once like most parents that tried to be careful with what she says in front of her kids but sometimes she fails. Then one day, she found her son Arlo starting to drop a few bombs after hearing her.
Was she bothered? Not really. She said meanness will bother her more over a sweary kid. She further explained that Arlo is at an age where his peers are much more influential than Mum and that he’s going to copy his peers no matter what she teaches him.
She rather that he learns how to surround himself with good people than to follow a rules such as “Never curse!”
She advises parents to teach their kids to recognize qualities that the family respects and find friends with similar moral codes.
Parents can do this by pointing out acts of kindness such as “How kind is Charley for lending you a bottle?” and “I love the way Sophia is always making funny jokes.”
That way when they do ignore you and run off with their mates, they are in good hands, maybe cheeky ones, maybe sweary ones, but good ones none the less.
Because our household might be a sweary one, but it’s a bloody kind one and it’s full to the brim with love.”
While some parents still shudder at the thought of having a household that swears, remember that Science has proven that swearing isn’t all bad and expressing some anger is healthier than keeping it in all the time.
However, it is an issue if kids hear adults abusively yelling “F*** you” at people who cut them off in traffic.
In conclusion, it is always better to teach kids to be a good and kind person because you can’t monitor and control their behaviours all the time. Parents can only teach their kids the best they can but the rest is still up to the child.
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