In a society where women are expected to have kids after reaching a certain age, it’s strange when the same society also condemns mothers for not having the perfect body after. As a mother’s belly grows, she may gain stretchmarks along with the other uncomfortable symptoms that come with being pregnant.
A Malaysian lady, Doreen Ching, recently shared a picture of her post-pregnancy stretch marks on Facebook. After giving birth to quadruplets, the 23-year-old mum said she wanted to get real about her stretch marks that covered most of her abdomen.
She shared the picture because other women had come to her for advice to rid stretch marks or Tiger mama stripes. Instead of giving advice to these women, she reminded them that stretch marks last for a lifetime and they are often part of the pregnancy journey.
Many women who have dealt with their own insecurities praised her and called her beautiful, amazing and inspiring.
However, in a world where beauty is often still prized highly, there were haters as well. They described her stomach as ugly. Some even said it made them want to throw up. Many of these comments come from men, pointing at a double standard that women are expected to bear children and maintain the perfect body.
In response, she wrote:
“Do you have any respect for the women of the world, your mother, your wife, and a woman who can afford to have children?”
While it is courageous of her to share her insecurities to the world, the kind of comments and treatment mothers like her face also reflect the way our society views and values motherhood.
Check out some of the Instagrammers and celebrity mums getting real about their post-pregnancy body to surround yourself with positive reinforcements! The Instagram account loveyourlines also celebrates stretch marks aka tiger stripes.
Feature images from Doreen Ching